It’s very possible that you’ve already heard about the technique of tapping, as it’s becoming increasingly more popular online. However, this latest spiritual trend is not to be disregarded.
EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, Tapping is a quick, effective, pain-free and drug-free method to activating physical, emotional, and spiritual healing and magical manifestation.
Obviously I’m not the first to discover the process of tapping. Not only has it been around for a while, but it’s based on the 5,000 year old ancient Chinese method of acupuncture. In fact, I was inspired by a few modern holistic tapping practitioners to start practicing it for myself, and now I want to share it with you.
This post is meant to serve as a guide to our tapping process to hopefully make it easier and more comfortable for you when you begin tapping with us. Some people find that learning to tap is quite easy and have no need for an instructor or tutorial. If that’s you, feel free to use the information in this post for your individual tapping journey.
However, if you need a little guidance, I offer personal guided tapping sessions online through Fryed House, and strive to help newcomers feel welcome and comfortable through this process. If you visit Tapping For Wellness, you’ll find my available tapping sessions, their purposes, and my booking calendar to easily book online!
So what is tapping?
As I said, EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapy) Tapping is based on the Chinese medicinal technique of acupuncture. If you’re not a fan of needles, don’t fret! The only tools used in tapping are your hands, your body, and your mind. That’s right, tapping eliminates the need for needles while still offering the same healing benefits.
EFT Tapping combines those ancient healing properties of acupuncture with the psychology of positive healing affirmations to enact change in the body, spirit, and mind. As you tap, you recite guided affirmations that are directed at specific points of healing. Tapping each point while saying these affirmations activates the necessary mind shift for healing and powerful manifestation, creating change in your own reality.
What can I heal through tapping?
The healing benefits of tapping are nearly endless. Depending on how often you tap and how powerful or effective your sessions are, tapping can offer healing for a very broad range of aspects within your life. A few examples are:
- Anxiety Relief
- Stress Management
- Pain Relief
- High Blood Pressure
- Depression Relief
- Banishing Fears & Doubts
- Weight Management
- Improved Self-Confidence
- Healthier Relationships
- Healthier Eating Habits
- Insomnia Relief
- General Well-Being
- Powerful Manifestation
- … and more!
What are the “tapping points”?
There are thirteen “tapping points” that we use based on the energetic meridian points in the head, hands, and body. There’s no need to remember them and the more you practice, the more comfortable you will feel working with them. It is important to remember that when tapping, you always begin at the highest point of the body and work your way down.
For instance, if you’re starting with the point in between your eyebrows, you will move down from there as you tap, down the face to the chest, and then the hand if you choose to include it.
The first point is at the very center of the top of your head, or the location of your Crown Chakra. Moving down, the second point is located above your eyebrows, and the third point is located between the eyebrows, or your Third Eye Chakra. The fourth point is located just below each eye, in alignment with the pupil. The fifth point is located at the outer corner of each eye, towards the temples. (Refer to the diagram above for exact positions.)
The sixth tapping point is located above the upper lip, in the center where your lip creates a little divot. The seventh point is located below the bottom lip, in the center above the chin. The eighth point is located below the collarbone, just above the chest where you feel two tender spots. The ninth point is located underneath each arm, in the soft spot above the ribs but below the armpit.
Now, we’ll move to our hands. Depending on which is your dominant hand, or the hand you write with, the following points will be used on the opposite hand, or your non-dominant hand.
For instance, I am right-handed so I use the index and middle fingers of my left hand to tap on the points on my right hand. (Refer to the diagram below for exact positions.)
Beginning with the outside of your thumb, furthest from your pointer finger, the tenth tapping point is located at the outer corner of the base of your thumb nail, or your nail bed. Moving to the outside of your pointer finger, furthest in relation from your middle finger, the eleventh point is located at the outer corner of the base of your nail, in the same position as the point on your thumb.
As with the ninth and tenth points, the twelfth tapping point is located in the same spot on your middle finger where the corner of your fingernail base meets the edge of your finger, or the side facing your pointer finger. For the thirteenth point, we skip the ring finger and head straight for the little finger, or your pinky. Once more, you’ll find the spot where the corner of the fingernail base meets the inside edge of your finger, or closest to your ring finger.
Finally, we reach the final tapping point, which is called the “karate chop point” and can be found in the middle of the fleshy side of your hand, between the base of your little finger and your wrist bone.
How is our tapping technique more powerful?
You’ve probably seen a lot of my herbal posts from the past which are filled with remedies for spiritual and medicinal purposes. I’ve personally been using aromatherapy and herbal products in the form of essential oils, incenses, and balms for years now – treating everything from stress and anxiety to headaches and upset tummies in our own children.
Once I discovered the benefits of tapping, I realized that I could combine them with the benefits of aromatherapy and positive psychology to unlock a whole new level of healing and manifesting, and that’s what I’ve been doing.
I’ve always worked with crystals for these same purposes so I figured, why not include them too? Really, I’ve got nothing to lose by incorporating an Amethyst or Rose Quartz crystal into my tapping. Obviously tapping is a powerful technique on its own and can be done without any of these things, but choosing to combine crystals and herbal oils in my own process just feels right. It’s okay if it doesn’t feel right to you. Instead, focus on the affirmations and physical aspect of tapping.
If you choose to combine aromatherapy and don’t have any essential oils or balms on hand, we recommend finding some online or at your local natural grocers. They offer many different blends that conveniently come in roller bottles, or you can purchase pure essential oils that can be blended with other oils to create your own for specific purposes. (It’s important to note that pure essential oils should never be used directly on the skin and must be mixed with a carrier oil such as almond, jojoba, or coconut.)
At Fryed House, we created our own coconut oil balm for this very process and chose to add cannabis, lavender, and calendula to amplify the healing process. The idea is to use the balm or oil to “anoint” the tapping points that we talked about earlier before each session.
Not only do you receive the benefits of aromatherapy, positive affirmations, and acupressure from the tapping when using an herbal topical on these points, but you also receive the healing qualities through the herbs being absorbed into the skin and carried into the bloodstream. In our opinion, this allows for a complete, streamlined method for healing of the whole person – physically, mentally, and emotionally.
How do I develop my own tapping technique?
Everybody taps differently and what works for some, may not work for others. Some prefer longer tapping sessions, like 20 or 30 minutes, but I personally try to limit our sessions to 10 minutes and under. The online guided sessions for Tapping For Wellness are just 15 minutes long – the perfect amount of time to get in touch with what you’ve got going on and guide you through tapping to resolve it. However, most of my personal sessions for myself and my family are only 3 to 5 minutes long, and sometimes as little as 60 seconds.
Depending on your environment, the level of comfort you feel in tapping, and what your life circumstances allow, take your time forging your own tapping path by building off of what you learn from others and your own intuitive voice. You will feel when something works for you. Whatever that may look like, follow it.
Even if you choose not to tap with us, we recommend trying one or two guided tapping sessions with an experienced coach and then using that knowledge to establish your own sessions. If you choose to include aromatherapy, when purchasing herbal products, always be sure to pay careful attention to the ingredients on the label and remember any allergies you may have.
Now that you know where the meridian points are, it’s time for the first major step: determining the issue you want to tap for. As I stated above, there are many problems that can be resolved with tapping, but this part is completely up to you. If this is your first time tapping, I recommend beginning with something easier, such as tapping for self-love or body positivity, and then working your way to bigger issues like depression and weight management.
After you’ve chosen one issue that you’d like to resolve, grab a piece of paper or open the Notes app on your phone and jot down three to five positive affirmations that relate to your issue. For example, if I’ve chosen tapping for self-love, my affirmations would look something like this:
“Even though I’ve struggled with loving myself in the past, I deeply recognize and accept myself.”
“I am worthy of everything good in this life.”
“The wars in my head do not define me or how I feel about myself.”
Now that you’ve got your affirmations, you need to access the right energetic state before you tap and the easiest, most powerful way to do this is by activating your feelings of gratitude. It may sound silly, but the energy and emotions of being grateful are of the highest frequency and allow for the perfect mental shift to tap within.
Think of something you are truly grateful for and visualize it, feel it, embody the gratitude that it brings you. Tapping while in this potent state of gratitude is the secret to unlocking healing and manifestation beyond belief.
If you are choosing to use therapeutic essential oils or salves for tapping, this is where you’ll need them on hand. Once you’ve chosen your topical, simply use it to anoint the following points: between the eyebrows, on the temples, behind the ears, on the inside of each wrist, and the middle of the sternum. If you are using an essential roller, simply roll the oil over each point avoiding the eyes and mouth. If you are using a more solid topical, just a dab with your finger and a small circular massage should do. Remember, a little goes a long way.
Once you’ve got your affirmations and feelings of gratitude ready, you need to decide which meridian points you’re going to “link” your affirmations to, or where you will tap as you recite them. This is much easier than you think.
Using the example above, I would link my first affirmation to the meridian point at the top of my head. This is where I will tap first seven times with my index and middle finger as I say my affirmation out loud. You may choose to begin at a different point but remember, we move downward when tapping, from the highest point to the lowest.
Next, I would link the second affirmation the point between my eyebrows, where I will tap with my index and middle fingers, using both hands, seven times while reciting the second affirmation.
Lastly, I would link the third affirmation to the meridian points on the outer corners of my eyes, where little happy wrinkles form when you smile. Using my index and middle fingers again, with both hands, I would tap seven times and recite the affirmation.
Below is a visual of a tapping session from Tapping For Wellness, focused on nourishment and promoting a healthy relationship with food.
Here is another example from my Tapping For Wellness sessions, focused on body positivity and lifting the self-esteem.
You can choose to do this for as long as you want or feel is necessary. Using the example above, you would start over and go through the whole process again just as you did before. Other meridian points and affirmations can be added as you wish, or you can stick with very simple tapping techniques if that’s where you’re more comfortable.
I’m in the process of teaching my kids how to tap to handle their emotions. It sounds crazy, but I’ve seen quite a bit of progress in their emotional awareness and communication, not to mention progress within myself. I’ve also used tapping in privacy to meditate, to manifest huge changes for our family, and to work through periods of immense grief.
To easily keep track of your tapping sessions and progress, download our free printable TAP THAT worksheet, or if you’d like to begin your own tapping journey with a tapping coach, join me in Tapping For Wellness with Fryed House!
See you there!